It’s hard when we’re tired and things affect us more than they usually do. Have you ever had that experience when you blow up over something little? To make things worse, other people’s responses aren’t validating; they’ll say something like, “Come on, it wasn’t such a big deal. We can fix it.” It’s not about the little thing that went wrong. Often it’s the compounding of different things that made you upset.
So how can we deal when it’s been a long week?
Remind yourself that you’re more sensitive and that things might affect you more. On these kinds of days you might want to take a five-minute walk or allow yourself to be less rushed.
Rate your feelings throughout the day.
Let’s say that we use a five-point scale, where five is the highest level of intensity of an emotion. By pinpointing your emotions, you can take the actions necessary to make sure that intensity doesn’t increase. Now let’s use an example. Let’s say that you’re at a level three, where you’re feeling moderately anxious. To maintain that level, you figure out what you need.
Find people who will validate what you’re experiencing.
Tell your friends that you want them to listen. Maybe this means that you’re not looking for them to fix your situation, but just be there for you.
I love the idea of the carrot on the stick. Sometimes we just need something to look forward to at the end of the day. It helps with those long days. Maybe this means stopping by a lake or nature spot if it's not too far away from your house. Or if you're in the city, you could go see a movie. There's something about being in the movie theater and not being bothered for two hours. Or at least, I enjoy it! Let's say that none of those are exciting, you could also take a longer route from work to your house, and turn up the music. And for the end of the week, plan something with your friends and go to a concert or plan to take yourself to the beach or to the museum. That's all for now.
What helps you get through the week?